is it me or are there just a TON of break-up songs out there lately? seems like a season of cynicism and heartbreak on the radio. one of my favorites is this tune by goyte. great new music this year...and a great cover of this tune by the above group, doing something incredibly creative.
okay, thought: how many people in your life have you been close to at some stage/age, and now they're just somebody you used to know? my 10 year reunion is coming up for college...COLLEGE! i mean, i've been out of college for 10 years, crazy! seriously, there's so many people i loved and shared life with during college who i haven't even seen in 10+ years. it's a weird feeling when you cross paths with someone you used to know. for a moment you're transported back in time, and they are too...you're both the same person, except time and circumstances have led you apart. there's a bittersweetness in those moments, a nostalgia that is palpable, and sometimes sticky. i mean, nostalgia can freeze you in emotional attachment to the past--especially if the past was good. you can get stuck in dreaming about 'better days'...and begin trying to re-create something that's long gone. nostalgia gets people in all sorts of trouble. that's why so many people don't go to their reunions, or their hometowns, or their old house...cause it hurts a little (or maybe a lot).
i heard an author say something like "the only thing worse then nostalgia is amnesia," and i think that captures the sentiment here. it can be really good to remember, but nostalgia is tricky because it has a powerful emotional tide that sweeps over us (and in some cases buries us). no, we don't want to forget the past or fail to remember the goodness of the somebody's we used to know, but we do want to gracefully let go of each former season of our life like spring gives way to summer. life is short, and time must be given primarily to the present moment--this is the only place where reality exists.
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