relational intelligence

i'm a big brother fan. ever seen the show? they lock 15 people in a house for the summer and put cameras on their every move. sounds stalkerish, and yes...it is that...as well as a truly brilliant social experiment. how will people behave when the winner gets $1 million dollars and the goal is to eliminate everyone else from the house and be the last person standing. there are three main components to strategy 1) the contestants must be good at the different games/competitions which are weekly opportunities for them to earn immunity from being sent out of the house. 2) the contestants must decide who they can trust and work together with in order to ensure they've formed strong enough alliances not to be voted out. 3) the contestants must be socially likeable because those who are voted out of the house first, come back at the end to vote for who they will award the $1 million dollars. SO, if you've stabbed too many people in the back or don't have enough people championing you...you still get voted out.

i'm fascinated by the experiment because immediately their are similarities to 'real' real life. 1) talents make us valuable to others. we need a growing skill set of some description to establish ourselves. 2) networking propels us towards people with similar stories and skills. alliances with the right group of people shapes the distance and height to which a person can achieve. 3) authenticity in relationships allows others to see our heart and desire our success as much as their own.

a wise mentor and friend of mine once told me that he operates on 2 truths when he is dealing with others...1) we all want relationships 2) we're all bad at relationships

if success in life depends so much on relationships, a good question becomes: how do we grow to become more relationally intelligent?

listen to how speaker author steve saccone says it:

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